Sometimes when we just aren’t in a good place mentally, it can really impact everything we do. The decisions we make. The way we speak to a partner or colleague. Even the smallest thing like feeling bloated, waking up with a headache or a lower-than-expected-bank-balance can set us off on the wrong foot in the morning, and boy do I know that feeling.
How do we overcome this?
We know all too well that when someone tells you to “cheer up!” when you’re in a particularly bad mood, the urge to shout back, “Oh it’s that simple is it? Why didn’t I think of that before?!” is all too strong.
So instead of seemingly overreacting with the burning sarcasm that’s deep inside, what can we do?
This tip is something that I have found works for me, so I’m hoping you can find some use in it, too!
10 things that make you happy
Create your happy list. It can be jotted down quickly in your phone, in a journal or diary, or on your computer at work. It needs to be somewhere that’s easily accessible for you to view at a moments notice.
What do I include?
That’s the easy part; anything that makes you smile. It could be a person, a memory, a smell, a picture. Anything. Anything that will evoke a positive response in your mind. Mine looks a little like this:
- The thought of James doing the washing up
- When Jonah couldn’t say Franki so I was called Binky
- Finally starting a job I love
- The achievements of my Elite-Females
- Rachel’s distinctive cackle and Zuz’s ‘foreignisms’
- James and I planning our future
- My family
- The smell of coffee. And Chocolate. Mmmm coffee flavoured chocolate
- The love of my friends
- This picture of me and my baby sister
Why does this work?
For me, it acts as a reminder that there are bigger things in life than how you look. Lately, my main focus has been on my weight gain, something I can only attribute to my hormones… It’s getting me down to see how different I look, through something I have little control over.
But when I think about the love of my friends, my future with James and Jonah being able to now not only say my name but spell it too, it brings me back to earth. Do these people care what I look like? No. Do they want to see me happy? Yes.
And that’s it really…Give it a go and see if it works for you.