Maternity Pay; Can you afford to have a baby?

“There’s never a ‘right time’ to have a baby, so just go for it!”

Is something I have heard all too often. I don’t disagree with these comments, but every time I find myself contemplating starting a family, all I hear in my mind is, “can you afford to have a baby, Franki?”

With the average age of a first time mum in the UK having increased to 29 years old (depending on where you look), I’m finding myself under increasing pressure to ‘conform’ now I’m approaching 30. I’m not married and I don’t own a house; both things being entirely mine and James’ choice. However there’s still an air of “am I failing?” for not being in the same position, as say my parents were, at my age.

Although at my age, my dad was married with a mortgage and 3 kids and I simply couldn’t imagine that being us right now..! 

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My tips on how to be your own inspiration for 2018

Ah, December 31st. The end of another year. The day on which your newsfeed will be flooded with reflections, photos of everyone’s year and the goals they have for the coming months.

These kinda posts can go one of these ways with you; they either inspire you to go out and make something happen for yourself, make you feel rubbish for not having as ‘great’ a year as someone else or just think, ‘meh’. View Post

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The Abortion Debate: Is 2017 really the place for the 1967 UK Abortion Act?

Last month, I had an evening to myself (I’m as shocked as you) so I decided to peruse iPlayer for something to watch. I love a good documentary or anything based on true events, so when I saw Abortion on Trial pop up, I was instantly intrigued.

It’s a taboo subject. A subject that causes mass debate. Protests. Questionable behaviour from those that oppose the thought of a woman having a mind and controlling her own body. A subject that I know affects people close to me. View Post

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Happiness Is

Sometimes when we just aren’t in a good place mentally, it can really impact everything we do. The decisions we make. The way we speak to a partner or colleague. Even the smallest thing like feeling bloated, waking up with a headache or a lower-than-expected-bank-balance can set us off on the wrong foot in the morning, and boy do I know that feeling.

How do we overcome this?

We know all too well that when someone tells you to “cheer up!” when you’re in a particularly bad mood, the urge to shout back, “Oh it’s that simple is it? Why didn’t I think of that before?!” is all too strong. View Post

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